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The
rate of divorce is going up every year, at a faster
rate in Western societies, and the East seems determined
to fast catch up. Failed marriages, and the family unit
mean that the very fabric of society is disintegrating.
Failed marriages particularly when children are involved,
can be traumatic. In a time when everyone is looking
for 'instant' happiness, people jump headlong into a
relationship on the basis of 'Love at first sight'.
The
success of a marriage depends on so much more than what
meets the eye. Ancient Vedic astrology studies every
aspect of married life that is relevant in today's modern
day society; and therefore ensures that so much that
we take for granted is studied thoroughly. While individual
efforts towards a happy marriage can never be undermined;
and are the very essence of a truly successful marriage,
nonetheless if we can foresee how little or how much
effort will be put in by both partners into a relationship
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the world have fewer divorced couples.
Mental Compatibility
What is the basic mentality of two people; are they
intellectually inclined, or more inclined towards family
matters; towards social service. Two people could also
be quite business minded, and would tend to give money
high importance. Some people are basic fighters, whether
the situation is social or political. Therefore a match
between a person who has an inclination towards social
service will find it difficult to get along with a person
who gives money high importance.A balance between the
type of mentality between a man and a woman is necessary.
As a woman is traditionally a caretaker of the family,
it is always better if she is seen as being more inclined
towards family. This also ensures that ego problems
are minimised between two people.
Power Compatibility
In a relationship a power struggle is often one
of the biggest problems. When both man and woman try
to be boss of the family unit. If there is continous
struggle for power, problems will be many. It is important
that the man be head of the family and while a woman
can be equal to a man, and this is considered ideal,
when a woman has a personality that is more powerful,
problems will arise.
Longevity of life with one another
It is important for the long term happiness of two
individuals and their family that they are blessed with
a long life, and a long married life, so that companionship
lasts a life time and the presence of both mother and
father is essential for children. Moreover it ensures
that no financial or emotional instability comes into
married life due to the loss of a partner or the ill
health of either one. This point ensures that two people
will live a long and healthy life with one another.
Physical habits and its relation sexual compatibility
Every person has a physical nature that is characteristic
of that person
.some of us are inclined to enjoy
cool weather and the outdoors, while some of us are
very indoor people and like to be cosy. Some are very
adventuourous while some are quite lazy and laid back.
If two people have two completely opposite physical
characteristics in their personalities, they will find
it difficult in the long run to have a sexually compatible
relationship. While this is not apparent to many initially
in a relationship; but over a course of time, these
differences become more prominent.
Adjustment and affection
This point reflects the amount of adjustment two
people will be willing to do for one another in their
marriage. This also reflects the affection which is
between two people towards one another, naturally when
there is a high level of affection then a will to adjust
also exists. It reflects the interactions of day to
day behaviour and basic likes and dislikes, and type
of lifestyle that each enjoy.
Comptability at a spiritual level
What type of personality do both people have, are
they spiritually inclined and tend to be givers and
are also nature lovers, the second type are balanced
and tend to be both givers and takers in life, the third
type are takers, and tend to be quite aggressive and
selfish. It is important that a balance exist in the
relationship for it to be successful.
Success and prosperity
This is considered to be one of the most critical
in the success of a marriage. Do the charts of both
people enhance the prosperity and well being of the
family. Will there be family happiness both with one
another and with children. The well being of the family
as a unit is relfected in this point.
Healthy children
Children are a vital part of most marriages, and
their good health is most important for family happiness.
Ancient vedic astrology recognised the importance of
genetic compatability and takes into account any hereditary
problems that could possibly occur due to marriage.
This is an important point for those who wish to have
a family; however in light of medical progress this
point is not as important as it used to be. Nonetheless,
if there is a problem indicated at the outset of marriage,
one can always check before taking any decision.
There are further aspects that are studied in Vedic
astrology which shed light on further aspects, but the
above forms the basis of ascertaining whether a relationship
will be successful or not.
Better to be safe than sorry!
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